By Cleofe Uy Catuday
Back in the day when I was doing telecommunications, my boss shared something that I keep close to heart. He said that single mothers are one of the most hardworking people on earth! That was about 20 years ago, and it still rings true to this day. By God’s purpose I am surrounded by many single mothers in my organization. Some were already so when we hired them, while others by life’s circumstances in the past years with us.
Studies show that single mothers have lower quality of life and even lower life satisfaction due to variables like stress levels, psychological and sociodemographic factors as well as income. I am not positioned to disagree with this because the mere fact that someone must single handedly take on the responsibility of two, is a major challenge already. On the other hand, these realities also give single mothers the ultimate reason why they are working really hard and why passion and commitment is not an option but a must.
Single mothers have the responsibility of providing for their loved ones on their own. The toil is imperative. Hard work is necessary. The role of being able to get the needs addressed is on your plate. Psalms 132:15 says, “I will bless her with abundant provisions; her poor I will satisfy with food.” God’s assurance of provision is beautiful. It’s not a fight one does alone, so faith in the heart keeps going despite the load the single mother must carry. In Filipino we say, “Nakakaraos din.” But prepare to be surprised, God is generous, and his abundance abounds us, we only need to believe in Him.
Today I want to celebrate the single mothers that I know and every woman out there who share the same plight. My highest respect for you for continuously waking up without minding your level of energy for the day, for making it through despite the weight that you have to carry on your own, for giving that smile to others even if your own heart can hardly afford to do so. For giving each of your children the best you can give them. For making sure people do not get to see your situation as a disadvantage but a benefit given your sincerity and dedication. For believing that life is precious and that your situation has a deep purpose. A purpose of helping and inspiring others who doubt themselves. The heart of a single mother is filled with that and every day is a testament of how the sacrifices can be masked with happiness and selflessness.
May these words offer you the much-needed hug you might not have taken for some time. May these mere words bring you the reassurance that you are doing great. The validation that you have come so far and won many battles, so that whatever you are facing now is something you can win with your heart. A reminder of how God has been with you through your lowest times and will stay with you through your journey in life.
To tell you that you are beautiful inside and out. That the physical and emotional scars that you gathered through the years are reminders of your courage and resilience. That your heart is filled with love and that it is love that fuels you to do all that you do.
My world is colorful and I am surrounded by these amazing women who are single moms. From friends and loved ones. Fellow corporate leaders, general managers, department heads and associates. To all of you who share single motherhood like me, sending you love and faith that all is well. Let us hold on in faith that by God’s grace, better days are ahead of us.
